Songs, lyrics: what did you hear when you were young?

This is Maggie. (And Lily, they are almost always together!!) 

Maggie is our resident “ROCK STAR”!!  She sings ALL the time!  I know I was the same way when I was young!  She will sing snippets of songs, over and over and over and over and over…

(This is Maggie and Lily after a fun time at church…face painting done by Lisa Gardiner)

The other day I had Maggs and Lily in the car for a little fun time with them.  OK, we were driving back from Girl Scout’s. It was a fun time for them!   Lily is a “Brownie” and Maggie is a “Daisy”.  Of course we get in my car and as I am driving, I hear Maggie singing the song…Do a deer a female deer…

I had just bought Rowan a cd of fun little songs like that and they all had been listening to it all weekend.

So I listened to Maggie…

Do, a deer, a female deer

Ray, a chocolate golden sun

Me, I call myself a name

Far away from you I run!

I stop her right there and say sing that again!  I am making sure I got her lyrics right…I pull over and I get my iphone out and open up my notes and I write down those lines as I hear her sing them and I am on the floor laughing, inside of course!  As she sings, Lily is trying to correct her…”No, No!” I tell Lily, “Let HER sing”.

That is as far as we got, then she got into it and started just singing syllables, she hadn’t learned the rest of the song…her way!

I loved it! 

I eventually told them the correct lyrics and they were laughing hysterically as well!  IT was priceless…

So my Friday question is…

What songs did you listen to and totally hear the “wrong” lyrics, and belt out over and over?  Then you found out the correct lyrics…

Wanting to bow out of it all?

Wanting to bow out of it all…do I need to? Do i want to?

This is a very difficult blog to put on virtual paper.  Let me start by saying…I am NOT hormonal.

I just spent the past 10 days, not alone, but with none of my children.  That was huge!  I have NEVER been away from my children for 10 days! I have been away for maybe, 4 days, but never 10.  Tom has done that because of his job.  Me, I had to move heaven and earth and totally take advantage of a few friends to make it work.  Needless to say, that with no family in town, going out of town is very close to impossible.  So you know I have some Amazing friends!!

My first 5 days were spent with my amazing husband.  It was a great time of alone time, for the most part.  We spent a little time with my sister, Christy, and my Nana, and our amazing friends Jeff and Kim!

It was MY husband’s time, to do what he wanted to do.  So we went out to dinner, for seafood, and more seafood.  We walked to the beach every day, and lived in the water for HOURS every day!!  It was soooo relaxing!  The water helped to speed the relaxation process up!  IT was very good!  We even went to Universal to the “Harry Potter” park.

After Tom’s 5 days, he had to fly home for work, and  several of my closest friends in Nashville came down to join me.  We had a blast!  It was 5 more days of tropical beach bliss!  The water was perfect…the sun shined the entire time!  If it called for rain…we only got rain in the evening, or early morning.  

We had hours of “girl” talk, solving the world’s problems, soaking in the sun, floating in the water, eating amazing seafood, praying for each other, looking at our lives, taking the time to figure it all out.  I learned a lot about life at the beach…I’ll save it for other blogs…on this one, I want to discuss…

Wanting to bow out of it all, all the hectic, craziness of life…Taking the kids to something, somewhere.  Coordinating schedules, getting home school done.  Trying to remember when Tom is in town, out of town, working, trying to make it work for all, and last,  wondering why I just don’t feel as though I fit in with so many children, older and very young.

I started reading The Mentoring Mom, and have started mentoring my daughter.  I have 2 years to have the opportunity to make an imprint in her life, to finish this “season” of her life.  My life has been totally chaotic with 6…2 being teens that are all over the map and a wild new 3 year old!  I am very involved in my amazing church.  I volunteered to oversee the high school worship band, because I love those teens and it just wasn’t happening.  I have had our dysfunctional small group since the church started, over 7 years.  It was immediately a different kind of group.  We didn’t do the normal “study”.  We had issues right away with some of the people in the group.  Over the years, it has “morphed” into a “medium” size group.  About 12 adults, and anywhere from 25 to 35 kids, every other week.  It is a lot.  I home school 5 of my 6 children, with the amazing help of Magen! (Hey, I have Rowan!!)  I am a part time songwriter.  I want to do more.  I want to go to Africa this coming summer on a mission trip.  I have children going in different directions, searching for identity, and just trying to figure life out!

I really believe that I am to slow down…but I really don’t know what that means.  Stop everything?  Stop some things…if then what?   Who gets to keep doing their stuff and who has to stop?

So that is my journey…What to do.  Halt, hold off on all things?  Walk away from a lot?  Continue in the insanity?

Do Anya and I go to Africa?  Will Rowan be ready for that? Can I raise the money for both of us?  Are we supposed to go?  Are the reasons right?  Is the season right?  Do I pull back on activities with the kids?

What do I do?

My Week in Hell(thcare)!!!

On Kieran’s 11th birthday, last week, we had a lovely brunch at Cracker barrel…the beginning of our birthday festivities…

Tom was off that day, so he knew he wanted to take that 6 month desperately needed trip to the trash dump.  The back of or truck was full of junk…It was gross!  Every time he had time to take it, it was either a Sunday or a Wednesday…Dump is closed both days…

(Of course, the kids love going with him.)  He had 2 trips to make.  Made the first trip.  Birthday boy went with him.  Came back, re-loaded the truck.

Lily shut the door of the truck for him to leave; only she shut her fingers in the door!!!  (She said later, “It’s a good thing he didn’t’ drive away!”)

She let out her blood curdling scream, he opened door, brought bloody hand up, rinsed under water and off I was to the doctor…

We knew the drill, what would happen…(Maggie did the same thing with her toe last spring.  Not in car door, a bench fell on her toe, split open to bone…blah, blah, blah.)

Lily, split the finger open at the pad of the nail, where the cuticle is…

I went to my Ped. Dr., I knew what they would say…but, I had a glimmer of hope…Maybe they could fix it there…

NO…

ER…             

Immediately sent to Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital.  Well, not immediately, it was 2:15, we hadn’t had lunch and I knew that we would be hungry.  Of course, Lily couldn’t eat, in case of surgery…but Anya and I were hungry.  (Anya came with me instead of Tom,  so Kieran would at least have one parental unit there for his birthday…)

We drove through Wendy’s and grabbed a bite.  I know…so mean, but I told Lily I would treat her, once her procedure was over…

Got to Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital at 3:00.

Checked in, quite quickly and efficiently.  I thought, “No problem, it’s only 3:00, we’ll get in, in no time…”

THREE HOURS LATER…

They finally call her name…we go back and I am so happy, I am chatting with the person,  told her I though she forgot us, lost chart, blah, blah, blah…No,  Trauma rooms are “prime real- estate she says…there is a much S L O W E R turnover.  Ahhh yes…she is right, MUCH.

We get in the room, get Lil a blanket and turn on the Disney Channel for her…(We don’t have satellite anymore, so this will be a treat…or so we think…)

Long story short…after many hours, they x-rayed finger, no break…thank goodness, or that would have meant surgery…

They numbed her finger, pricked it with needle of Lodi cane, not mosquito bites, like Doctor tried to tell, my incredibly LITERAL child…

(Side story)

He looks at her and says, “We are going to give you 2 mosquito bites on both side of your finger. “

She looked at him, and said, “Why do you have to have mosquito’s bite my finger to numb it?”  I laughed…looked at the Doc, and said, “Just shoot straight with her.  She is VERY literal.  You mean, it will feel like a pinch like a mosquito biting her, and she thinks mosquito’s are going to be used…” Asked if she could handle the truth, and I told him yes.

Anyway, numbed her finger…Lodi cane was very painful going in; finally her finger was totally numb.

Took nail the rest of the way off, stitched damaged finger, put nail back on to help new nail grow through.  Wrapped it up, put a metal finger splint on it and we were on our way home only 5 hours later…

5 LONG hours of the Disney Channel…5 hours of Hannah Montana, and Phinnius and Ferb…(helped to confirm decision to get rid of satellite!!)

Of course, we had to stop at Wendy’s for Lily…she was starving.  She did get a Popsicle, after the procedure, but it just wasn’t enough.             

A promise is a promise, even if it is at 11:30 PM!

Took her home, drugged her up, drug a mattress in our room and put her to bed!   I had to watch her and make sure my 7 year old kept her finger elevated on a pillow!!  I had to maneuver her and her hand from time to time, but she did great!!

That’s not all, in the Harden Hospital…

Murphy’s Law… Wednesday night Tom had to go out of town,  (It ALWAYS happens like this)

Then:

Thurs and Friday Rowan had a fever/ virus thing, I was up all night both nights with him…viral, no doctor required…

Sunday Maggs and Lily both had fevers.  Probably same viral thing Rowan had…

Of course…

Sunday was Kieran’s “friend” birthday party, Tom got home, well, he was supposed to get home at 7 am. Sunday morning.

Since Anya and said father are kind of sharing a car…She had his car during the days he was gone,

Saturday, Anya and I dropped his car off at parking area where bus would drop guys off.  Our church small group in on Saturday night…and we had just started it up again after a summer break.

During our small group Saturday night, Tom calls and says he and the some of the band guys can fly home…can I bring the “Harden Church of Christ Van” and pick them up.  I am the only one that has a 12-passenger van; their cars are not near the said airport.  I become very popular.  It works great for lots of folks and luggage…so I say of course.  The flight got in at 12:30…AM  (Who needs sleep???)

We get home after 1:30 am. I get up next morning to take teen boys that were at my house, Tucker, John and Taylor to church, and youth group.  Let rest of house sleep in.

I get texted an hour or so later…Maggie and Lily both have fevers!!!  Seriously?

Anya stayed home so both parents could be at Kieran’s friend party…It was just the 2 boys with friends. strange not to have so many kids of mine in the van.

Still 5 kids in van. So we still had to take the “Harden Church of Christ Van” to the party…

Ready?

15 minutes into party at “Pump It UP”, Taylor , my almost 14 year old, extreme child, decides that he can run and NOT slide,  down the 20 foot slide full of air…

Not such a good idea.

Runs, falls, lands on his wrist…spent rest of the party in pain, “Icing it Up”.

While the other kids…continued to “Pump it up”  

HE wanted to go to the ER.   I didn’t have the mental fortitude to go to the ER again so soon. I could feel the insanity kicking in…the noise in my head, make it stop…

So I called the triage nurse at my pediatric dr office. (They are available 24/7 for advice!!!)   She said I could wait, take him to Doc office next morning…watch for this, watch for that…give Motrin for pain, ice 20 min on every hour…Doc office opens at 7:00 am.

Next morning, fairly early, called doc, got an appt for Taylor at 11:30 am.  Checked it out.  Said he needed an X-ray to see if it was fractured…(Please, not the ER!!)  Woo Hoo, they sent me to radiology center, (much nicer waiting area) for x-ray to see if it was fractured.  Fantastic staff…all so nice!!

2 hours later, no fracture, bad sprains, possible tendon tear, pull…No need for MRI…whew!

Went back to Dr. office to then get a really nice leather brace for his wrist…I am sure I’ll see that on my bill…

Thinking I might be done…no, I had to take Lily back to Vanderbilt, 4th floor this time to Orthopedics, for a smashed finger check…2 hours later…all was well.  Yea!

In the room, 2 doctors, argue… I mean discussed her finger to see what to do on next visit…3 weeks for re-check, one want another x-ray as well, other doesn’t…Mmmmm.  

Doc says we’ll see you back in 3 weeks for a re-check and x-ray.

I don’t think so, I am thinking…I will just go see MY Ped…for the recheck…like he did with Maggie’s toe…

Whew…I am exhausted!

Conversations…raising kids…raising ourselves.

I was just on the phone with one of my best friends…she has teen children like me.  We were talking relationships, with our kids…

Quite an intense subject as far as I’m concerned.  Having 6 kids, I have a completely different relationship with each of them.

When it comes to my kids, I know the amazing, good, bad and ugly of each one of them.   I also know the amazing, good, bad and ugly within myself!   If we are very honest about ourselves we will see the amazing, good, bad, and ugly of ourselves, in our children.  It’s like staring into a mirror, it may look like a “fun house” mirror, all distorted and out of proportion, but probably not…

That is not always so pretty.  I have to keep myself in check.  When I see that “ugly” behavior in them, one of my “ugly” behaviors, I pray that I am reminded to be aware of my behavior and as I correct them, that I am reminded to not let my ugly behavior come out!

More important…to commend their good and amazing behavior much more…accentuate the positive.

Running like a Chicken with my head cut off…

Quite an expression…Yes, I know, but that is where I am right now…

I feel like ever since I got home from San Antonio, and the “2010 Flood”,  I just can’t seem to get a grip, catch up, relax, and just be.

My house is never clean…like I would like it to be…kids really just want to do nothing this summer…not even morning chores!  Kieran has play practice 4 nights a week…Anya still has youth group stuff every Wednesday night, birthday parties, sleep overs, Taylor is at Robotics camp all week…8-3!  (I’ll detail that in another blog post…), Rowan is…well Rowan.  Tom hurt his back…Anya still taking 2 classes this summer, one to get ready for ACT’s in August.  Anya wants to get her license tomorrow!  Anya turns 16 tomorrow!  I am not really sleeping.  Busy, busy, busy!  There is so much more, but I don’t have time to write it!!  I have an appt!  So I’ve got to go!

So, I am praying about life, our family life, peace and rest and joy.  Not sure of what I want the outcome to be…just peace, rest and joy!!  I am asking that you join me in this…

:)