Christmas 2010…Bah Humbug or Very Merry?

I was getting ready to run my millionth errand today and thought to myself, this has been the worst Christmas season ever for me…It hasn’t even felt like Christmastime…

Then one of my besties, Teddy,  called me and asked me if she could pick me up to go run Christmas errands with her!

I was able to say yes!  Anya, offered to take the 4 younger kids to Pegram Park and met her bestie Skye there…                                                             

Check out their pics!

Taylor was with Tom at Leslie Shew’s…so…I could say yes!!

I had to go to the bank and deposit some moolah…then we did a little shopping…

I have done most of my Christmas Shopping, just a few items to pick up.  We hit Big Lots and I was able to get some travel games for our massive 1st annual Harden/Pemelton Florida Extravaganza trip!!!  (This will be my next blog post, details to come…)

Then we hit Costco, Best Buy, Ross 4 Less.  Teddy got most of her shopping done.  We laughed and made fun of people, and ourselves, and realized that shopping with your friend makes life so much better!!!

The amazing thing is that yesterday, I did the same thing with my bestie, Diana.  We met in Green Hills, ate some lunch, ran errands, did a little shopping.  She knows I HATE to shop, and she LOVES TO SHOP.  So she knew she would make life much easier for me!!  We had a blast then headed to Teddy’s house for one last girls night of 2010!

I could go on and on about all that I don’t have, or wish I had or want, or feel left out of…but I can’t!

I am blessed!!   I have AMAZING FRIENDS!!  I Love each and every one of them!  They carry me through all the really amazing and all the crappy times in my life!  I have not been blessed with family here, so I really depend on the “family of friends”  I have here.

I have already received my Christmas presents this year…TIME with the ones I love, this week,  our annual Christmas Eve dinner, with so many friends…after the 3:30 service at Crosspoint!!  Time with my family and friends during the Christmas week…on our 1st annual Harden/Pemelton Florida Extravaganza trip.  My parents and sister and Nana Deacon all live in Florida!

I am even blessed with my amazing friends that will stay at my house and take care of my ginormous dogs and crazy cats, when I am gone!!

So I have to say my Christmas is NOT a Bah Humbug, like I was thinking…

It is Very Merry!!      

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

Thanksgiving…What are you thankful for?

Tom and I spent many Thanksgivings by our selves during the early years of our marriage.  Family…very far away.  My extended family was in Alaska for years then they moved back to Colorado. Several moves later, we are scattered all over, Maryland, Florida, Denver, Knoxville…  As the family as moved around, we decided that Nashville was the central location for ALL of us to meet.  So every other year we meet at our house for an amazing Thanksgiving weekend!  All are invited on the off years as well.

This is an on year…

The family started to arrive on Tuesday.  Mom, Dad and Christy.  Then Wednesday, Sam and the clan arrived.  Late Wednesday night Beth, my beautiful pregnant sister, her husband Deuce and their friend, Cameron came in from Denver.  Drew and Dara are in Florida with her Dad this year.

What an amazing time we have had so far!!  The visiting and laughter.  Watching all the kids have a wonderful time together!

Deuce cooked up an amazing dinner.  AMAZING…you don’t understand, he is brilliant!  I cook…I can get the job done…He is an artist…He started early this morning.  Spices and sauces and garlic and love and laughter.  Later in the afternoon Jen came over with Lane and Maddy.  My parents shared pictures of their beautiful house in Florida.  My father has been working on it for months.

We were treated to Turkey, dressing and all the wonderful trimmings.  My pregnant sister Beth, made an amazing Apple Pie.

Several hours later, one of my closest friends, Teddy, came over after working her LONG shift at Southwest.  She treated us to cupcakes, which the kids have devoured.  Enjoyed the Thanksgiving dinner as well.  More love and laughter, stories, thankfulness was shared.

After 2 or more hours cleaning the kitchen, mainly done by my wonderful husband Tom, we packed it in and headed off to bed…

It was a simple day, spent with loved ones, sharing our hearts, laughing, crying, bonding, cherishing every moment together!  It doesn’t happen often enough with all of us living so far away from each other, but you would never know when you walk through the front door.  That is the magic of family!  We have a BLAST!!!   Do we all agree on everything?  Politics, religion, what kind of car is the best?  Does the toilet paper on the roll hang forward or back?

No, and we have always agreed to disagree.  It is what makes us who we are.  We had 23 people for dinner tonight.  Most will stay until Saturday.  My parents and Christy will stay until Monday.  I am blessed!  It is a time of the year that I ALWAYS look forward to…

I am very thankful to my family and close friends.  I am blessed with an amazing husband and children!  I mean amazing!  I serve an awesome God.  I live in a free country.

I am blessed…I am thankful.

What are you thankful for this year?

Chips and Salsa Talks…how it all started.

I have 6 children.  I have very close friends that also have 6 children.  Over the years we have become more like family, as well as  friends. Over the years our children have become like siblings and I feel like they are my children as well.  Their oldest son, Tanner and I have become very close, he is definitely like a son to me.

On his journey of life, I had invited him to coffee to discuss life, and be a sounding board for him.  Well, Tanner doesn’t like coffee…

Chips and salsa

photo courtesy of Anya Elizabeth

He likes chips and salsa.

So I said, “Great, let’s go get chips and salsa.”    That was the beginning, that began our “Chips and Salsa talks.  I don’t know how many times we got together, but is was cool, it was intentional, it was and is a great thing!

We talked about everything…school, family, friends, girlfriends, future, past, dreams, plans, how to plan, helped him come up with a plan, played devils advocate, challenged him on things, and so much more!    I can’t tell you specifics on our conversations, that would be a breach of confidence…

Rule:  don’t have to discuss with anyone, ie: said parental unit, unless said party talking, is planning on doing any harm to themselves, or someone else…

I even got him started in blogging!  Tanner Pemelton
That was one of the best things I encouraged him to do…He is a wonderful writer and our next generation, of writers have a lot of amazing things to say!  (one very important blog roll at the bottom of my blog…) Check ALL of them out!

I have cherished my chips and salsa talks…I gained another member of my family.  I grew as a person listening to what this individual had to say.  I hope I instilled some insight, wisdom, encouragement, love, and a little laughter in him.  He is gone to another state for school…I am sad.  But…he is with his 2nd family Jeff and Kim Graves…so it is all good!!  I am mom 2/2.

One thing I know, he will be back for holidays…although he will be pulled and stretched to see all of his friends, and of course his family…I know we will sneak in a Chips and salsa talk.

Fortunately, our families are family friends…part of my Nashville Family . We will be in each other’s lives forever…  I know one day I will be at his wedding celebrating and crying with his mom and dad…knitting a rockin’ awesome sweater for a baby that one day he and his future bride will have, watching amazing films that he has written, produced, filmed or whatever with his best friend Nathan Graves…

I believe that his parents, Bret and Diana,  did and continue to do an amazing job raising Tanner and all 6 of their children!  They are all creative, funny, intelligent, silly, loud individuals, just like my 6…

I also believe, like Hillary Clinton said about 14 years ago, taken from an old African proverb, that it does take a village to raise a child…  I cherish the people that are speaking life, and encouragement, discipline if needed, God,  and love into my children’s lives…

My path continues…as I am now on my journey of “Mentoring Mom” with my amazing daughter Anya, I have booked our 1st Chips and Salsa talk.   Tomorrow around 11:30…

Intentional conversations, mixed in with a little laughter…

and of course, chips and salsa.

I can’t wait!

4th of July

I knew it would be stressful, but, I stuck with tradition in our family and we went to the Pegram parade, and I took all the kids that were home, with me,  to the fireworks.         

Tom left for Washington DC on Thursday.  Reba was playing at the mall on the 4th.  Good gracious!  How cool.

Let’s go back a few weeks… I wasn’t about to go, too much for me.  Anya was going to be in Ill. at the Cornerstone festival that same week.  Well, without help from Tom and without Anya???  But just for kicks I called my brother in MD and asked him about it.  He was pretty motivated about it, I was SHOCKED!!!

I said, “You know I will really need your help wrangling my kids as well as yours.”  He was fine with it, not a problem.  I got off the phone and was like, OK, I can do this!!   We then talked to Anya and asked her to choose if she wanted to join the fam and go to DC or still go to Cornerstone.  We left it up to her.  After much angst, she chose to stick with her original plan and go to Cornerstone.  So I was about 85-92 percent still going.  We had talked to Carolyn, the tour manager and talked to her about parking at the hotel, how far it was from the venue, talked about getting another room and spending the night there after the fireworks as to not contend with traffic. She was on it. It was do-able.  It was do-able!!

I called my brother at the beginning of the 4th of July week.  I think I’m going to do it…he was on board…we were planning.  A day later he had texted me to let me know, it wasn’t going to work out.   UGH, my kids were so excited, the week before Maggie, my 5 year old, had her bags all packed to go see her cousins…At the same time Carolyn was emailing Tom needing our information for a possible VIP tour of the White house!  So, I called him later that day, and double checked…no just wasn’t going to work.

So bummed…I emailed Carolyn and thanked her for all her hard work and told her we weren’t going.  She said it was my last chance.  No go.  Tom packed, and Thursday he said lets just go anyway and we’ll just get another room the whole time…too late.  Carolyn couldn’t change plans, or add us to a list.  This was the government.  The White House.  He would be rehearsing a lot…he would be busy…  

The weekend came…Anya was gone, I took Taylor to a friends house Friday for a sleep over and Saturday he would then go to another friends house to hang and watch the fireworks.  That left me with a 10 year old, 7 year old, 5 year old, and a WILD 2 year old, who didn’t like to take his naps anymore!!!

Saturday morning: Parade starts at 9:30.  We got up early, ate breakfast, took our time…UGH!  Running late, go to the car, get in, go go go!  We made it to our spot, met Jen, who I always hang with and watch the parade.  Take pics of the kids getting candy, get soaking wet from the kids squirting us with water guns, see the fire trucks, horses, 4 wheelers and politicians, chit chat with friends.  Rowan was pretty good.  I had to hold his hand the whole time.  He would pick up the candy and put it in his bag.  Only one time I let go when the horses were up, in front of us… I was taking a picture of Maddy, in the parade, and he took off to the horses. Walked up to a pony and said, “Hi”…That was it. He just wanted to say Hi… I took him back.

It was over and we were hot and tired.  I took him home in hopes of a nap, so that we could then go to the fireworks…I had already told the kids I would take them…what was I thinking???

Well, no nap, no chance of a nap.  He yells and screams, and body slams in is crib to make sure he stays awake.  By 6:30 pm, he was spinning!  He was overtired, angry, frustrated, yelling, throwing tantrums.  (He can throw some GOOD ones!!!) The only thing he hasn’t learned is to hold his breath…I’m still waiting for that to start…

By 8:00 I was done…please, can we just not go and I can put this poor baby to bed???   Well, my kids would not have that!  I heard a lot of whines and No mom…Please????  So we endured, I endured.  Got in the car at 9:00 drove to the ball park.  Got an amazing parking space in my giant 12 passenger van.  Put Houdini in the stroller, so I know he is safe and we walked to the fireworks.  I met the Jiosa’s by strange luck, or God’s intervention, and hung with them.  We set out our blankets, I counted heads, all there.  I left Rowan in the stroller right next to me until right before the lights at the ball park went down and the fireworks began.  I got him out and he sat on my lap.  He was mesmorized.  He enjoyed it, most of it.  He was still tired, and toward the end he pulled grass and threw it in the air like fireworks.  He hid his eyes and covered his ears from the loud noises.  He stripped down to diaper.  He made it.  I made it!!  Lily, Maggs, Kieran and Carter P. (friend) were great!  Never moved!  

We packed up our stuff and I got the heck back to my car.  I prayed that he would fall asleep!  That he wouldn’t scream the entire way home.  My prayers were heard…He was asleep within 5 minutes.   We made it home by 11:00 and I put all my kidlets to bed.

It was good.  It was stressful for me.  But we had a good time and memories were made!!

As for Tom, he had a BLAST!!  I will make sure he updates his blog in the next few days with pics!  They are amazing!!  Was I excited for him?  You bet!!  Was I sad for me…yes.  Is this life?  It’s mine!!  I choose to love it every day!!  It is a gift…ALL of it!!

Feeling a little out of the loop…of life. Time to catch up.

Wow!

It is a great Tuesday morning!!  I just have to tell me that, as I am tired!!

I was awakened, early, by my 2 1/2 year old.  I am exhausted, I am tired.  I don’t sleep well anyway, so getting up early never helps!  I am sitting in my room, trying to wake up.  Rowan is watching “Little Bear” on Nick Jr.

I haven’t posted a blog post in weeks!  Every day that I don’t post, I feel more disconnected and decide not to post…too much to catch up on…

What?  Too much to catch up on??  I think I am losing my mind!  So, I decided to “catch” up…Brief snippets, stream of thought, hope it makes sense!

Kids are great!  All are healthy!  Went to San Antonio with my Friend Teddy to go see Tom play with Reba at their last concert of the George Straight/Reba/LeeAnn Womack series.  Great show, Drunk cowboys fought 2 rows behind us durning the George Straight part of the show…Tree fell on our road that afternoon.  Not from wind, but from ALL the rain that day!   Anya and Cooper heard the cracking of the tree and grabbed my Lily and Maggie, who were playing right there on the road where the tree fell!  My angels here on earth!  She sent me a pic of the fallen tree!   Flooded in Nashville the next day, Sunday, that Tom was flying home.  He made it home, about 45 minutes late.  Got directions to the best way to hopefully get home.  Made it to Wal Mart in Ashland City to pick up food and candles.  Got home!  2 hours later, he and Jen and Blake and lots of kids were stuck in the development, as the flood waters came across River road and up our development.  1st 2 houses were flooded!  I was supposed to fly home the next day or so…Got stuck in San Antonio until Thursday.  Stayed with Teddy and her amazing friends, Brenda and Joe Murphy.  Met several of Teddy’s friends and extended family members.  Had a blast.  Totally worried about my family that was trapped in the development.  My insane husband, Tom, got a boat ride from the neighbor, “down” River Road to Pond Creek Road, which was dry, and got a ride with our friend Spady, to his session.  Now that is dedication, with a little insanity mixed in!  (or is it the other way??)  The roads were dry enough by Thursday afternoon.  I flew back and made it home.  2 hours later our electricity went out until Sunday!  Not a happy “Welcome Home” present Nashville Electric Service!!  Went to Home Depot Sunday afternoon and purchased a 600.00 gas generator, as we were told that our power may be out for up to 2 weeks!!!  Not at my house with 6 children!!  NOOOOOO!  Got home, began to put it together.  15 minutes later 7 Nashville Electric Service trucks showed up in our little development!  THANK YOU GOD!!  Electricity back on in about an hour…packed up generator, took back to Home Depot, right before they closed.  They were wonderful and totally understanding.  Life hasn’t been the same since the flood…We have been blessed to be able to help our community gut their houses…It has been devistating to see what neighbors and friends have lost!  It has been raining on and off for the weeks following the flood…Many people just 2 miles away still don’t have power, living in their, “gutted houses”.  Red Cross brings them breakfast like a “Good Humor” Ice cream truck…That image broke me!!  Our church,  and many other churches and people are rallying and stepping up and serving the people affected by this flood.  Many prayers and tears!  Want to be available and remember that these same people will need our help in 4 weeks, and 8 weeks, and beyond.  Hoping and believing that we will remember this and be there for these same people.  Several of our friends children are graduating from high school!  Congratulations to all of them!!  Only 2 weeks of school left!  I am so ready for this school year to be over!  All my kids will do math this summer…seems to be the dreaded subject of the year…We are still going to attempt to put our pool in this summer.  My baby sister just turned 25 on Sunday!!  Happy Birthday Christy!!  Time is flying!!  My oldest daughter will be 16 next month!!  That overwhelms me on so many levels!!  Must have another post on this one!!   I am taking a break from our Dysfunctional Small group this summer.  Kieran auditioned for “Seussical the Musical”…I ended up auditioning too…  we both got a part!  New adventures in my life!   Lisa and Gerald have put their “wedding” on hold for a while.  They were so affected by the flood!  Please pray for them.  Writing christmas songs, writing songs in general.  Trying to finish some songs.  Going to finish my cd in the next few months…honed it down:  more raw, acoustic “folky” kind of cd…Very excited!  I’m such a late bloomer!! (that is the understatement of the year!!)  Have some other irons in the fire of creative things I am planning on working on…  Love my family both here and all over the country.  Really would love for my brother Sam and his wifey Terri, to move to Nashville!  I want family near by!!  My kids want Sammy and Kylie and Brody here too!!   Want a vacation.  I need a vacation!  A stress free time, where Nashville doesnt’ flood, and my family isn’t stuck in it!!  Want Rowan to be over his “terrible twos”.  Not looking forward to the threes either!  He is a VERY intense child…Hmmm, could he be like his FATHER??  But I adore him!!  I adore all of my children!  I am blessed beyond all measure to have such a large, beautiful circle of friends in Nashville and beyond!  I am searching for motivation to get back to my regular workout program.  Got started on Monday, and during our workout, Tom severely pulled something in his lower back!  This is a new pain for him.  I have done this all my life…stress shows up in my back…so it cut my work out short… I need to get back to the routine.  Today will be the day!  Realize that I am blessed beyond all measure!  I can hardly believe my life.  It is GOOD!  It is chaotic, and busy, and I over-do, over-commit, run ragged and have a difficult time saying no…but I am learning.  I love to laugh!

It is ALL good!

Pictures to follow…