I wrote this was several weeks ago…but I haven’t had time to post this. Then our blogs were hacked…All is better now, and we are secure!
So I wanted to post this!
Enjoy….
So funny, I am sitting at terminal 4o something at the Denver airport and I am just enjoying the FREE internet! Surfing and blog reading. I find a 20 something blog, and after a phone conversation with a good friend, that is NOT a 20 something, I came to the realization that we are all bitching about the same thing.
20 somethings vs. 40 somethings
Frustration with careers:
20 something…I put out a zillion applications for jobs that I went to college for and am over qualified for, and nothing. Don’t think I could get a job at McDonalds or Wal Mart?
40 something…I am being downsized as I am no longer relevant, they can hire a 20 something much cheaper than they can keep me.. So difficult to find a job…I can’t even get a job at Wal Mart!
Relationships:
20 something: difficult to find that Mr or Mrs. Right….I want life to be more than about sex.
40 something: I just want to have that intimacy that we used to have when we were younger and life was simple and carefree before kids, jobs, responsibilities. When we could still dream, or divorced: At my age, it is difficult to find that Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Dreams:
20 something: I have huge dreams, I just don’t know HOW to get from here to there, it is overwhelming, how do I make the connections, make ends meet while I am pursuing…am I good enough?
40 something: I forgot how to dream. I feel TOO OLD to dream. This is a younger world, for younger people, no time, too much responsibility, kids, job…am I too old to be considered good enough?
Blah, Blah, Blah!!!
Is anyone listening? Is anyone listening to anyone? Is anyone talking to anyone? It seems that no matter what the age, we have a lot in common, a lot to talk about, a lot of relating…
I know for me, as a 40 something, I have felt WAY too old. I forgot how to dream I have been drowning in self pity of my age, my 6 kids, my age, my lack of time, responsibilities of life, my wrinkles, extra weight, not so hip, cool clothes. I forgot that I have a lot to offer. I have life experience. I want to help, I AM revelant and I have a voice.
I am beginning to believe that I am not too old..to pursue…My husband told me that there was a country artist that got her first record deal at 49!
Hello people…
With the Internet, I have the ability to put my music out there. I have to believe that I can sing. I know I can… I hear many 20 something’s and realize that I can kick their vocal asses singing! I am quite good. I have to believe that I have something to say with my music. I have stories to tell. I just saw one of my class mates from high school. She left a bad marriage after 20 years. 10 years with an alcoholic…she finally had to say no more. As I was listening to her story, I said, Wow, Tommy and I actually wrote a song about you. Has anyone “famous” recorded it? Not yet. Is it relevant? Absolutely! Just seeing that I do have something to say. I want people to listen. She has something to say…and many people that NEED to listen!
I am happy to say, that after my “dry spell” in the dreaming department, I went to an amazing conference called “Quitter”, put on by Jon Acuff. It lit a fire in me, a fire to dream, and believe in dreams again.
I would be a liar if I said that I don’t have moments, on a daily basis, of that evil voice that tries to tell me that I am too old and this is a joke. I do. I am now recognizing that voice and am learning how to shut that voice up! I am remembering to turn to my husband and continue to talk about our dreams, and continue to plan into baby steps and pursue.
So no matter HOW old or young you are, don’t give up, don’t think you are alone.
You’re not.
Remember to look at the beginning of this post, look, there are more people to talk to and find support and support others, then you can ever realize…
Don’t stop dreaming and pursuing, this is a huge world and there is enough of it to go around for all of us, who dare to dream.
