Songs, lyrics: what did you hear when you were young?

This is Maggie. (And Lily, they are almost always together!!) 

Maggie is our resident “ROCK STAR”!!  She sings ALL the time!  I know I was the same way when I was young!  She will sing snippets of songs, over and over and over and over and over…

(This is Maggie and Lily after a fun time at church…face painting done by Lisa Gardiner)

The other day I had Maggs and Lily in the car for a little fun time with them.  OK, we were driving back from Girl Scout’s. It was a fun time for them!   Lily is a “Brownie” and Maggie is a “Daisy”.  Of course we get in my car and as I am driving, I hear Maggie singing the song…Do a deer a female deer…

I had just bought Rowan a cd of fun little songs like that and they all had been listening to it all weekend.

So I listened to Maggie…

Do, a deer, a female deer

Ray, a chocolate golden sun

Me, I call myself a name

Far away from you I run!

I stop her right there and say sing that again!  I am making sure I got her lyrics right…I pull over and I get my iphone out and open up my notes and I write down those lines as I hear her sing them and I am on the floor laughing, inside of course!  As she sings, Lily is trying to correct her…”No, No!” I tell Lily, “Let HER sing”.

That is as far as we got, then she got into it and started just singing syllables, she hadn’t learned the rest of the song…her way!

I loved it! 

I eventually told them the correct lyrics and they were laughing hysterically as well!  IT was priceless…

So my Friday question is…

What songs did you listen to and totally hear the “wrong” lyrics, and belt out over and over?  Then you found out the correct lyrics…

My Week in Hell(thcare)!!!

On Kieran’s 11th birthday, last week, we had a lovely brunch at Cracker barrel…the beginning of our birthday festivities…

Tom was off that day, so he knew he wanted to take that 6 month desperately needed trip to the trash dump.  The back of or truck was full of junk…It was gross!  Every time he had time to take it, it was either a Sunday or a Wednesday…Dump is closed both days…

(Of course, the kids love going with him.)  He had 2 trips to make.  Made the first trip.  Birthday boy went with him.  Came back, re-loaded the truck.

Lily shut the door of the truck for him to leave; only she shut her fingers in the door!!!  (She said later, “It’s a good thing he didn’t’ drive away!”)

She let out her blood curdling scream, he opened door, brought bloody hand up, rinsed under water and off I was to the doctor…

We knew the drill, what would happen…(Maggie did the same thing with her toe last spring.  Not in car door, a bench fell on her toe, split open to bone…blah, blah, blah.)

Lily, split the finger open at the pad of the nail, where the cuticle is…

I went to my Ped. Dr., I knew what they would say…but, I had a glimmer of hope…Maybe they could fix it there…

NO…

ER…             

Immediately sent to Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital.  Well, not immediately, it was 2:15, we hadn’t had lunch and I knew that we would be hungry.  Of course, Lily couldn’t eat, in case of surgery…but Anya and I were hungry.  (Anya came with me instead of Tom,  so Kieran would at least have one parental unit there for his birthday…)

We drove through Wendy’s and grabbed a bite.  I know…so mean, but I told Lily I would treat her, once her procedure was over…

Got to Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital at 3:00.

Checked in, quite quickly and efficiently.  I thought, “No problem, it’s only 3:00, we’ll get in, in no time…”

THREE HOURS LATER…

They finally call her name…we go back and I am so happy, I am chatting with the person,  told her I though she forgot us, lost chart, blah, blah, blah…No,  Trauma rooms are “prime real- estate she says…there is a much S L O W E R turnover.  Ahhh yes…she is right, MUCH.

We get in the room, get Lil a blanket and turn on the Disney Channel for her…(We don’t have satellite anymore, so this will be a treat…or so we think…)

Long story short…after many hours, they x-rayed finger, no break…thank goodness, or that would have meant surgery…

They numbed her finger, pricked it with needle of Lodi cane, not mosquito bites, like Doctor tried to tell, my incredibly LITERAL child…

(Side story)

He looks at her and says, “We are going to give you 2 mosquito bites on both side of your finger. “

She looked at him, and said, “Why do you have to have mosquito’s bite my finger to numb it?”  I laughed…looked at the Doc, and said, “Just shoot straight with her.  She is VERY literal.  You mean, it will feel like a pinch like a mosquito biting her, and she thinks mosquito’s are going to be used…” Asked if she could handle the truth, and I told him yes.

Anyway, numbed her finger…Lodi cane was very painful going in; finally her finger was totally numb.

Took nail the rest of the way off, stitched damaged finger, put nail back on to help new nail grow through.  Wrapped it up, put a metal finger splint on it and we were on our way home only 5 hours later…

5 LONG hours of the Disney Channel…5 hours of Hannah Montana, and Phinnius and Ferb…(helped to confirm decision to get rid of satellite!!)

Of course, we had to stop at Wendy’s for Lily…she was starving.  She did get a Popsicle, after the procedure, but it just wasn’t enough.             

A promise is a promise, even if it is at 11:30 PM!

Took her home, drugged her up, drug a mattress in our room and put her to bed!   I had to watch her and make sure my 7 year old kept her finger elevated on a pillow!!  I had to maneuver her and her hand from time to time, but she did great!!

That’s not all, in the Harden Hospital…

Murphy’s Law… Wednesday night Tom had to go out of town,  (It ALWAYS happens like this)

Then:

Thurs and Friday Rowan had a fever/ virus thing, I was up all night both nights with him…viral, no doctor required…

Sunday Maggs and Lily both had fevers.  Probably same viral thing Rowan had…

Of course…

Sunday was Kieran’s “friend” birthday party, Tom got home, well, he was supposed to get home at 7 am. Sunday morning.

Since Anya and said father are kind of sharing a car…She had his car during the days he was gone,

Saturday, Anya and I dropped his car off at parking area where bus would drop guys off.  Our church small group in on Saturday night…and we had just started it up again after a summer break.

During our small group Saturday night, Tom calls and says he and the some of the band guys can fly home…can I bring the “Harden Church of Christ Van” and pick them up.  I am the only one that has a 12-passenger van; their cars are not near the said airport.  I become very popular.  It works great for lots of folks and luggage…so I say of course.  The flight got in at 12:30…AM  (Who needs sleep???)

We get home after 1:30 am. I get up next morning to take teen boys that were at my house, Tucker, John and Taylor to church, and youth group.  Let rest of house sleep in.

I get texted an hour or so later…Maggie and Lily both have fevers!!!  Seriously?

Anya stayed home so both parents could be at Kieran’s friend party…It was just the 2 boys with friends. strange not to have so many kids of mine in the van.

Still 5 kids in van. So we still had to take the “Harden Church of Christ Van” to the party…

Ready?

15 minutes into party at “Pump It UP”, Taylor , my almost 14 year old, extreme child, decides that he can run and NOT slide,  down the 20 foot slide full of air…

Not such a good idea.

Runs, falls, lands on his wrist…spent rest of the party in pain, “Icing it Up”.

While the other kids…continued to “Pump it up”  

HE wanted to go to the ER.   I didn’t have the mental fortitude to go to the ER again so soon. I could feel the insanity kicking in…the noise in my head, make it stop…

So I called the triage nurse at my pediatric dr office. (They are available 24/7 for advice!!!)   She said I could wait, take him to Doc office next morning…watch for this, watch for that…give Motrin for pain, ice 20 min on every hour…Doc office opens at 7:00 am.

Next morning, fairly early, called doc, got an appt for Taylor at 11:30 am.  Checked it out.  Said he needed an X-ray to see if it was fractured…(Please, not the ER!!)  Woo Hoo, they sent me to radiology center, (much nicer waiting area) for x-ray to see if it was fractured.  Fantastic staff…all so nice!!

2 hours later, no fracture, bad sprains, possible tendon tear, pull…No need for MRI…whew!

Went back to Dr. office to then get a really nice leather brace for his wrist…I am sure I’ll see that on my bill…

Thinking I might be done…no, I had to take Lily back to Vanderbilt, 4th floor this time to Orthopedics, for a smashed finger check…2 hours later…all was well.  Yea!

In the room, 2 doctors, argue… I mean discussed her finger to see what to do on next visit…3 weeks for re-check, one want another x-ray as well, other doesn’t…Mmmmm.  

Doc says we’ll see you back in 3 weeks for a re-check and x-ray.

I don’t think so, I am thinking…I will just go see MY Ped…for the recheck…like he did with Maggie’s toe…

Whew…I am exhausted!

Life, through the eyes of an 11 year old…

For Kieran’s birthday this year he requested a camera…

He knew exactly what kind, make, model, all that fun stuff.

(He talked to his older sister, and she filled him in on a good 1st camera).

These are a few of the pictures that he took over the past 4 days!

Random…most definitely.

Makes sense…totally!

Enjoy!!

Kieran

Anya’s coming of age party…2006

Anya… Anya Elizabeth at the age of 12

A little history into our journey into woman hood…

One of my close friends, Diana Pemelton, is a crazy, fellow “breeder”, as she calls us. I met her many years ago. I met her at church. She was doing a church women’s retreat. I needed friends! We met, over the next few years we became close friends.

She has a study that she does called “And God Made Woman”. It is an amazing 16-week study on women.  Quite the bonding experience with the other women in the group!   I have made some amazing friendships through this.
About 6 or so years ago, she and I were in her basement talking. We were discussing raising daughters. She has 2 and I have 3.

Her 3 oldest are boys.

I am the 1st to raise a daughter.

She is writing a study for girls/teens called “Daughter’s of the King”.   We were discussing men and women and how our American culture lacks ceremonies guiding them through the pivotal ages in their lives.  I was telling her that I want to have a ceremony for Anya, when she “becomes a woman”.   Tom had read, “Raising a modern day Knight”, and She and Bret have already implemented several of the ceremonies with their sons.   Tom had his first ceremony with Taylor, another story…

When Anya started her period, I went to her and told her that I wanted to have a celebration for her, for this next journey into adulthood/womanhood. I was going to have a slumber party for her. She was so excited; she couldn’t wait to invite her friends. There was a catch. It wasn’t for her friends; it was women that I chose. Mentors. Women that I trusted, that would be there for her. Women that she could talk to, if she couldn’t talk to me.  Like minded women. I didn’t need to be privy to their conversations, unless she was threatening harm. Those were the rules.
It took me a few months, as I had to fly some of them in from out of town. We planned our weekend. I booked a hotel, got a few rooms, with an indoor pool. We brought food, junk food, soda, she did make-overs on some of us, it was her night.

I didn’t tell Anya of my ceremonial idea. I had each woman buy a charm that represented HER, not Anya, but them. They then presented their charm to her and told her what it was and what it meant to them, and why they chose it.   
It was the coolest!
I bought her a bracelet for her to put them on. When she wears it, or sees it, she is reminded of this circle of women in her life that love her, are praying for her, are there for her in any way she may need them.

It was one of the most moving ceremonies of our lives.

I don’t know if Anya grasped the whole concept at such a young age, but those of us there giving the charms sure did. It was amazing to be a part of the power of these women, the power and oneness when we were together.
It was all about Anya.  

We had this celebration so she would not look at this new season of her life as a curse, but as a blessing, welcoming her, in a beautiful loving way, into womanhood.  It was a beautiful night.  

Mentoring Mom…the journey begins…serious subject, goofy pics!

I have started a new category on my blog called, Mentoring Mom.  I completely stole this idea from my good friend, Jeff Graves, Not the mom part, just the mentoring part.  We both have kids that will be leaving for school, or doing something in their life outside our home in 2 years.  (His first born, Nathan Graves, just left for college last week.)  He told me of his plan to mentor his 2nd child, Josh, over the next 2 years.

I loved his idea of spending the next 2 years of Josh’s life, while he is still at home, and really, intentionally pouring into his life.  I know we are supposed to be doing that from birth, but do we?  I believe that we try.  Life somehow has a way of getting in the way.  We do the school thing, and watch their games, or plays, or soccer or whatever it is your child does, we take them to church, we feed and clothe them, beds to sleep in, roof over head, yada, yada, yada… We hope and pray for them.

We also have their siblings lives to contend with, we have jobs, financial stress, spouses, family, extended family, holidays, birthdays, mid life crisis’s, I could go on and on.

So when Jeff told me he was going to be intentional about this for the next 2 years, a light went off in my head.

I totally got this!  I love this.  I hate this.  I am scared to death of this! 

I thought, what does this mean for Anya and I?  Lord, what do you want me to really teach her, before she leaves?  She is an amazing young woman already!  This will mean I have to look in to the ugliness of me as well, as help to mold and instill those nuggets of knowledge and grace that you want me to impart to her!  UGH!  I don’t want to do that, but I do want to do that!

I am excited for this new journey that we are officially on… 

I see already things that I want to grow in her.  She is book smart…very intelligent!  She gets that from her father!  I on the other hand am more street smart.  I am kind of a natural “Life Coach”.  I can see and help guide others toward the life they want to live.  I have considered getting certified for this.  Maybe this will be the catalyst for that.

I am excited, already I am making a plan.

Grace, joy, freedom, boundaries…these are a few that I will begin with.

These are life lessons that I can’t wait to discuss with her.  She is an easy 1st candidate.  She is a intelligent, beautiful, creative, funny, person.  She already has a grasp of who the Creator is to her.  That relationship is her own.  She loves people and loves to help.

Do we have places to go with this?  Oh, yes!

I will be blogging of our mentoring time…

I am blessed to have this amazing young woman.  I love this girl!  AND,  I really like this person!  She is one of my favorite people to be with.  We get along great!  (For a mother and a daughter mind you, I am NOT her best friend, don’t want to be either!)         I seriously adore her! 

I can’t believe that I really am in that countdown.  I have been mentally preparing for it since she was in about 6th grade.  Two years…It will fly.  I ask you to join me in this and pray with me as we, Tom and I, finish this part of our  journey with her , and watch her fly.